In Manhattan, 19-year-old Brandon Marco is fighting for his life. He leaped from the eighth floor of a Columbia University dorm, naked. Apparently he had been an altered state, perhaps from drugs. Obviously he did not know how to take care of himself in the big city, a competitive university, and during the exam period. Here is the account on Mail Online.
Not long ago, also at Columbia University, freshman from California Joshua Villa took his own life. Before that, students at Ohio State, University of Virginia and Stony Brook had committed suicide this quarter.
Experts in neuroscience have documented that the human being isn't fully adult until age 25. That's when their brain has matured. Yet, so many of those in authority have backed off protecting these not-yet-adults from themselves. Also, where are the formal lessons on how to cope with life? Instead there are coaching seminars on how to ace standardized tests.
In addition, given that America is a youth culture, we adults fear being perceived as "old" if we take on the mantle of wisdom with Millennials and members of Generation Z. Yet, if we approach them with caring they respond.
Recently, I have "adopted" for mentoring a handful of students here in the Tucson, Arizona Metro area. In the beginning, mostly I listened, nodding my head. Now, I share my experience, about what worked and didn't work both professionally and personally. I gave them gift cards from an off-center food botique. They were both stunned and delighted.
Yes, we whose brains have completely matured should enter the lives of the not-quite-adults. They need us. And we need them in order to not age badly.