Sheryl Sandberg has acknowledged the depth of her loss. She refers to late husband, Dave Goldberg, as her "rock," reports USA Today.
Maybe Sandberg herself is aware that catastrophe changes us. And she might wonder who will be the person and the professional eventually emerging from this unexpected tragedy.
In that, she is not alone.
Last summer, St. Philip's in The Hills, Tucson, Arizona, conducted a series on catastrophe. That phenomenon had visited so many of parish members' lives, directly and indirectly, that such an in-depth analysis was seen as necessary. Clergy from a variety of religions, a psychologist and an expert representing the atheist ideology all presented their unique points of view.
Essentially the takeaway was this: Once human beings experience the catastrophe they will never be who they had been. Because of that seismic shift they may have to totally regroup in their personal support systems. After a period of high empathy, the old crowd tends to drift away. Sometimes they fear that the situation might be contagious. More often they lack the strength to truly absorb what has happened. All expect things to return to what they had been. And that never is a possible scenario.
It's too cruel to tell anyone that catastrophe is a "gift" which will help them grow in ways they never anticipated. But, that can actually be what occurs, in time.