In "Death of a Salesman," Loman's way of getting lost is assuming he can get by in the competitive world of sales by simply being out there every day and gladhanding with others.
How so many of us continue to get lost is assuming that others want to join us in being social. Particularly on a holiday. There are those whose value is solitude. Yet, they are "harassed" to eat, pray, and sing along with the rest of us.
Several neighbors in this 100-unit residential complex in the Southwest have made it clear they want no part of others' way of celebrating a holiday.
When I invited a new resident to a service at a spiritual center, she told me nicely but firmly: I had to be social to earn a living. I don't have to anymore. My dog and I are going to San Diego and staring at the ocean.
Perhaps for the next big holiday a techie should invent a wearable that flashes "Fine, Being Alone." That happens when the over-social come by offering a supposed bit of inclusiveness.