At one time I wanted to erase from my memory that I landed my first full time job in communications by over-phoning a former professor from college. Explicitly, she ranted, "You call and call." But through her I did get the job. And, she got handsome payback. Call it triple damages.
Now, of course, I include that extreme push aka being a downright pest among my strengths. Author of book "Fired to Hired" Toby Johnson would too. And in his iconic commencement speech at Stanford, Steve Jobs told the graduates to stay "foolish," along with being hungry. Here is a copy.
The employees who push their managers to allow them to attend a meeting are the ones who will not only hold onto their jobs. They will get ahead. Being a nudge looks bad. It's annoying. But it is effective in worming themelves into situations where they observe what's really going on, connect the dots, and be seen.
Most of the vestiges of 20th century WASPY manners are gone for many of us. When the public relations point person for a trade association asked me to post a press release, I said "yes." Then I saw that that wasn't a cut and paste job. The whole thing had to be reconfigured. That transformed the transaction into a Favor.
It was public relations genius Bob Dilenschneider who had the courage to out the Favor Bank, and its complexities of deposits and withdrawals, in the early 1990s. That was when professional decorum or white shoe manners still were expected.
What I learned from Dilenschneider's Favor Bank concept is that the rules have to be imposed. If not, you're labeled as a jerk who doesn't understand the game. So, given that I had done an authentic favor for the trade association PR rep, I sent a transmittal note, along with the publicity. I said that plenty of work had been required and I hoped that I could expect favors in return.
Did the rep balk? Bad mouth me to colleagues? That doesn't matter any more, does it.
Stay within the law and ethical guidelines and all that does matter are concrete professional gains. Those who do best will figure out what Jobs meant by "foolish." I am still working on that.