If you keep up with media, you already know that loneliness can shorten your life. Here Huffington Post presents the research on that.
But loneliness also is probably killing your career. The reason why is this: You talk too much in professional contexts. The brass, colleagues, customers and clients glaze over. They want out of that force field. And you talk too much in business because you have no or not enough human outlets to share your thoughts and feelings with socially and in intimate relationships.
Being too chatty was never welcome professionally. Those of us who were verbose who were lucky got clued into the need to eliminate that behavior during our performance reviews. At Chevron, Bill Cox framed it diplomatically as "being more reserved." Currently, with an accelerated rate of change in the work world, no one can bear it. As with Hamlet, they lament, "Words, words words." This inability to put up with too much talk has seeped into daily interaction. Given the horrific weather in the Northeast, in my complex we often shut down the verbose, bluntly.
How to stop the excessive talk? Genius about human relations Dale Carnegie trained losers to develop a sincere interest in others. The game was to get the others to speak and to listen intently. Not only does that shift in behavior get us ahead professionally. It makes friends. Jumpstarting a career or one's own business can be as simple as asking others questions that compliment and elicit conversation about themselves. An example? "That slacks and jacket for work seem so comfortable, yet professional. How did you learn to put that together?"