Valentine's Day can cast a pall over the lives of those without a soulmate. The online-dating industry will probably make a nice profit as those sad sacks take a subscription. That may or may not lead to a satisfying relationship.
The late founder of Cosmo Helen Gurley Brown had a more cost-efficient and probably more successful recommendation for those searching for a mate. As Jennifer Scanlon chronicles in her biography of Brown - "Bad Girls Go Everywhere" - the magazine tycoon told single women to get to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) in an upscale town. Think Greenwich, not Derby, Connecticut. Here you can check out Scanlon's book on Amazon.com.
Given her hardscrabble background, it was no surprise Brown always cut to the heart of pragmatism. At those meetings in tony locations are plenty of men in recovery who likely lost their marriage when they weren't in recovery. They are in search of new lives and, according to AA guidelines, they can pursue a relationship after one year. Women who attend Open Meetings are not violating any AA principles. No, they can't attend closed meetings, that is those reserved for drinkers who have a desire to become sober.
Since there is an epidemic of problem drinking among women around the world, more females are entering AA, frequently after their marriages collapsed. Obviously, those in upscale locations might be receptive to starting over in the relationship territory. Males can attend Open Meetings. So can women seeking other women.
Even if the search for romance doesn't pan out, attending AA could improve the odds of finding love somewhere else. That's because its 12-step program lifts human beings out of the bondage of self. No longer will the searcher be a total Selfie.