Barack Obama has been designated a Selfie, that is, by the NEW YORK POST. Here is that article. Increasingly, both Generation X and Millennial clients seem to be Selfies. And. oy vey, Selfies have penetrated all social and even intimate relationships. Good. That give us non-Selfies the edge in our professional and personal lives.
Essentially a Selfie is a narcissist who eventually becomes isolated from most social contexts, both at work and in social activities. The more the Selfie detaches from the web of authentic social give and take the more Selfie the person becomes. Soon enough the Selfie is a caricature of a human being. The analogue is Jasmine in Woody Allen's "Blue Jasmine." Totally out of touch, she is locked into having conversations with herself on planes and city benches.
Non-Selfies have the advantage professionally of being able to listen, size up situations so we can make the best move, follow orders, and go the extra mile to please our clients or employers.
In our personal lives, we give other people the respect of our full attention. We are highly socialized in limiting input about ourselves - in person, on social media, on the phone, and in email. We ask discovery questions to find out more about others as well as provide others with a chance to share themselves.
Consequently, we are the ones thriving in professional life and not doomed to bowling alone. The challenge is to be tolerant of the Selfie. It may require all our best social skills not to burst out laughing at what has become a clownish figure. The early 21st century will be known for this kind of buffoon.