I've found it: The just-right persona to present myself for assignments as well as full time and part time jobs. It's low profile, helpful, and humble. As a result, good things are happening for me professionally. Because work is great, I'm not so needy in my personal life either. There's a pull force, much like the law of attraction. The meme of this confusing paradigm-shifting 21st century might be push back against arrogance of all sorts.
A sign of the times is that the influential publication Bloomberg features the non-arrogant attorney Gary Naftalis of Levin Naftalis & Frankel who is defending former McKinsey head Raja Gupta. That Manhattan attorney mirrors the Providence, Rhode Island attorney John Tarantino of Adler Pollock & Sheehan who got his client ARCO off the hook in that state's lead paint public nuisance trial.
On the other hand, there are the boys (the girls get knocked out of the game way too early) of Wall Street who are being hammered for, you got it, arrogance. The smart-aleck ways of JPMorgan Chase Jamie Dimon, once featured as self confidence and praised, are being panned. Other heads of business could also be in line for spankings by the media as well as shareholders, simply because of a persona which is perceived to be, well, arrogant.
This is really nothing new, is it. The literature majors among us recall the ancient Greek artists who positioned arrogance as hubris, the significant variable which brought down leaders. Of course, there is the very real danger of moving into an era of Uriah Heeps where too many of us are way too 'umble.